Despite what you may think...I'm not partial to someone just because they have Multiple Sclerosis, although I AM certain that people don't really understand just how traumatic the disease can really be.
Just as an example, I have always been more of a thinker than a jogger...but not being able to jog anymore has both physical and psychological repercussions that can't be underestimated.
I used to jog everywhere. Now, I can barely take the bus. I'm not looking for sympathy, but I'm sure that even a novice could conclude that the difference between being able to jog recreationally and NOT AT ALL is huge.
It's difficult to qualify, in the "legal" sense, but having become physically disabled in the middle of life...with no "lifestyle change" that would have made ANY difference is a bit depressing. It's not like I was being irresponsible and acquired a disease because of a lackadaisical attitude about my health...in fact, my EKGs tell the neurologists that I wasn't just a couch-potato...I was fit in both mind AND body.
I was struck by the fact that the late tenor, Luciano Pavarotti's most recent wife herself suffers from MS and is engaged in a legal battle with his daughters over the disposition of his estate.
Now I don't know the merits of the case, but I do know that there is probably a lot of misunderstanding on ALL SIDES of the matter...simply because MS is a disease that is frankly
unbelievable.
Again, I'm not taking sides in this matter, but I AM aware that people tend to judge others based on appearance...a method of judgment that fails badly when looking at someone with MS.
The problem is that you can't determine that a person even HAS MS by just looking at them.
It takes one of the most advanced pieces of technology known to mankind to "see" what's going on with MS--
Magnetic Resonance Imaging of the brain and spine.
There are chemical tests that POINT to MS (like a spinal tap), but there is
nothing outwardly visible that informs the general public of the daily agony that MS incurs.
And chances are, if you know someone with MS, they are doing a fair amount of acting just to appear
normal.
They are "normal", they just suffer from an illness that is largely invisible by-nature. What you see is a sort of clumsiness that seems out-of-place.
And because charlatanism has become so widespread in American culture, often the assumption is that one is pining for sympathy, when the disease is in-fact far more severe than meets-the-eye.
Again I'm not taking sides one way or the other, I just know some of the difficulties
I have experienced in getting people to understand that, for people who actually have MS, the responses in public are often cold...for odd reasons.
I couldn't imagine the agony that an estate dispute places on a person with MS.
Tech-addendum:
In actuality I would say that
Positron Emmission Tomography (PET-Scan) is the
most advanced non-intrusive technology available for peering inside the skull/bone/flesh of a living human. While generating
antimatter (hence Positron) is by far the MOST ad
vanced technology available, with few exceptions the generation of ANTIMATTER is far
more expensive than the
MRI, which employs good old-fashioned AC-POWERED ELECTRO-MAGNETISM to chart minute valence differentials (which show up as either bright or dark patches on an X-ray-like photograph), without the cellularly destructive effects of focussed X-ray radiation.